You carry a lot for other people.
You may be the one people turn to. The one who listens, helps, keeps things together or senses what others need before they say it.
There can be something beautiful in caring for others. But somewhere along the way, it can become difficult to know what is yours to carry and what isn’t.
Maybe you recognise this.
For a while, giving more can feel easier
than disappointing someone.
You help. You adjust. You make space.
And slowly, it can become difficult
to notice where another person ends
and you begin.
What is actually mine to carry?
Caring does not have to mean carrying.
We begin by noticing what you carry.
We may explore where responsibility, guilt or the need to care for others began. Not to blame anyone, but to notice the roles and patterns that may have become familiar.
Sometimes the work is about the present. Sometimes it leads towards family relationships or older patterns. Sometimes we simply notice what happens in your body when you imagine putting something down.
Inner Inquiry
Family Constellation
The body
Meditation & awareness
Caring and carrying can look very similar.
For a long time, I don’t think I always knew the difference.
When someone we love is struggling, helping can feel completely natural. We listen, step in, try to make things easier. And sometimes that is exactly what is needed.
But I have also learned that there are moments when helping becomes carrying.
We begin to feel responsible for another person’s choices, feelings or path.
For me, part of this work is learning that stepping back does not necessarily mean caring less. Sometimes it allows us to meet another person with more respect and to remain ourselves while doing it.
Curious? That’s enough to begin.
You can come with a question, a feeling, a pattern you keep meeting or simply with the sense that something needs attention.